Mar 22, 2012

The "R" word

Can't live with 'em, can't live without 'em!  In this instance, I'm not talking about girls.  Rather I speak of the paradox surrounding these useful yet dangerous tools known as routines.  A saying I developed during my Freshman year in college is "routine is a trap."  Lately however, I find myself thinking that I would do well to grasp the hand of routine once more.  In the past few years, every time she draws close I shoot her a distrusting look of disgust and push her away.  I reckon it's time that routine was given a fare trial.  Should I slip her in the noose for good or embrace her in welcoming arms?  With you, my blog readers as witnesses, I ask Routine to take the stand -

Routine, is it true that you seek to help people and improve their quality of life rather than insidiously slip your deceiving and confining tentacles around them?

Yes, I seek to give people structure and order, saving them from the head-ache of chaotic living.

Interesting.  Would you then say that life is naturally chaotic?

 Without people intentionally inviting me into their lives... yes.

So the world is naturally chaotic.  Sporadic disasters, broken systems of government and world powers, the random e-brake failure on my unattended truck... all prove that we live in a chaotic world.  Yet you give people the false belief that they have control over their lives.  How do you justify this illusive deception?

Simply because things happen out of our control does not mean that we have NO control over our lives.

Yet it is obvious that people build you into their lives obsessively!  Same job, same friends, same conversations, same modes of mindless entertainment, same ways of thinking, same way of washing in the shower, same parking spot at work, same desk is the classroom, same, same, SAME!  People grow so dependent upon you that when something chaotic happens, out of their control, they grow angry in confusion and fear.  We tend to fear what we do not understand and can not control.  Can you deny that many, if not most people use you out of fear?

I can not deny this.

Therefore you admit, you simply exist to give people a false sense of control to medicate their fear of an unpredictable reality?

No.  I admit that many people use me in unhealthy ways.  Most good things can be used in destructive ways contrary to their true purpose.

So what would you say is your so-called "good and true purpose?"

Well, let's take your own life for example.  You used to brush your teeth every morning and night religiously.  Also when you were a child you put your things away when you were done using them just as your parents taught you.  Now, you waste at least 15 minutes each day searching around your cluttered room for you wallet and keys, breathing a sigh of distress that inevitably reminds you that your oral hygiene has been neglected.

My own life? You want to talk about your role in my own life?!  When I gave you up, I gained so much more than good dentition!  I move from place to place traveling all over the US and the world.  I feel confined to no person or place.  Today I can enter difficult discussions and no longer dwell on the fact that I don't have the answer for everything.  I trust God.  I am free to grow and change daily. I am pursuing work that I love and doing what I am passionate about without being constrained to mere financial motivation.  I understand what it means to live an exciting life because I gave you up!  With you, Routine, I was nothing more than a good boy with a boring life.

You think you have given me up, but the reality is that you continue to use me.  You used me when you payed your credit card bills on time.  You used me when you punctually showed up to work today.  Even when you said a prayer this morning, I was there.  In fact, if you used me more - you would have clean clothes more often, you would exercise more consistently, you would be more successful in staying in touch with close friends and family, and you might even learn to play the guitar better!

Routine, you claim to be good and helpful.  Anyone can see that at times you are.  Yet you yourself admit that many people become obsessive with you.  You might cause order and help people accomplish their goals.  I give you that.  But you also keep people from stepping out of their comfort zones and accomplishing great things!  Can you be trusted?  We will leave it to the readers to decide your fate.  For now, this meeting is adjourned.  It's way past my regular bed time...